Emotional “Un”Intelligence

We are descending upon another election year in this country.

The Republican party and the Tea Party are throwing everything they have to try and defeat President Obama. Once again, the media is spinning its web trying to convince us of who is the right candidate, and we are sitting here once again looking at a field that is largely reminiscent of a beauty pageant that has no truly beautiful participants. The Republican candidates appear to be willing to devour the front runner Romney even to the point that they would jeopardize the only real candidate that has a chance of beating the incumbent Potus. No matter what the outcome of the primaries, the Obama campaign team is undoubtedly eager to get their chance to defend their title.

I ask that, if possible, do not get hung up on the politics of our elected leaders. Don’t lock your mind on to the games that are played in politics. Instead, let’s take a close and hard look at the lack of true emotional intelligence that runs through the veins of this political and media machine. These people are our only hope to continue to prosper and live what has been called the  American Dream. We all have the right as taxpaying citizens in this democracy to vote in representatives and leaders at all levels of government. But the sad truth is that most people that would stand up for the values and the constitution that our founding fathers took so much time, pain and loss to create, can’t either afford the cost it takes to get elected, or else they see what it can do to your family life and simply don’t want to go through the trouble.

I find it very disheartening to watch the mud slinging and the petty non sense that is associated with the political process. Some people don’t mind it and even thrive on that type of energy. When I watch the talking heads on t.v. and the reporters who bring us the election information, it almost makes me wonder if I am missing something. Am I the only person that feels this way?

In the book Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman talks about the need to be empathetic and to identify your emotions before you react to certain situations. I don’t discount the fact that the candidates and the President himself are all intelligent people, as they are educated people. But that does not mean that they are truly emotionally intelligent. Before you vote in this coming Presidential election in November, ponder these questions… do they really have empathy for the 16 million people that are unemployed in this country? Do they really care enough to take the time to follow through on their bloated campaign promises? Are they serious about creating jobs for the people that are caught in the economic whirlpool that we have stuck in for the last 6 years? Do they really want to cut senseless spending and analyze the waste of taxpayer dollars that are being syphoned from our savings and checking accounts? Or are they just looking for a way to secure their legacies and feed their egos at our expense?

It is a very simple litmus test. How do they live their lives? Do they practice what they preach? Do they spend money that isn’t their’s because in their minds they deserve it? This is a democracy, not a monarchy. It should not be perceived that by getting elected into the most powerful position in our country that you can do whatever you want whenever you want at the expense of others. You don’t vacation and throw extravagant parties when people are suffering that are under your leadership. This is a sign of disconnect from reality.

We still have the ability to turn this country back into the shining diamond that it once was for our ancestors. But we need to be very clear to our elected officials that we are tired of the greed and the insanity. We can use technology to get the message out. We can encourage our children, co-workers and friends to vote. We can pass this blog on to others and get te conversation started. These are the little things that we can do that will make a difference.

Being emotionally intelligent is quite simple. It has been practiced by all of the great spiritual teachers in history. We need to become more compassionate and conscious. We are all here for a very short period of time. What can you do in your neighborhood or family to make a difference? We need leaders. We need you.

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Where is Jesus?

I spent the better part of the day yesterday looking for Christmas decorations. In my travels to various department stores and hardware stores, I noticed that Jesus has all but disappeared from any of the store shelves. I really wanted to celebrate the birth of Jesus this year, not that He isn’t in my thoughts every year at this time, but really focus on Him. The last time I checked, that is what the reason is for the holiday in the first place. I finally found a nativity scene at Macy’s of all places. I totally understand that many people aren’t Christian and that they choose not to celebrate this aspect of the holiday season, but it almost seems to me that the corporations are ashamed to allow the presence of Jesus on their store shelves.

Jesus is the Reason for the Season

Could it be that the message that Jesus had for us is needed now more than ever? Are we compassionate to our friends and family? Are we compassionate to our enemies? Do we always want more and never appreciate what we do have? Political Correctness seems to have hijacked most of our traditions and has people walking on egg shells.

We need to be aware of other’s rights to celebrate what it is they choose to as long as there is no harm to others. If there was a celebration for Buddha’s birthday in the magnitude that Christmas is celebrated, would anyone be bothered by the presence of Buddha ornaments or paraphernalia? I don’t think so. So what is the problem? Is it the denial of the message that Jesus had?

I encourage you to remember the words of Jesus over this holiday season. Many of us have traveled the road of want and greed, only to find that when it really comes down to it, all we really have is each other.

Besides that, here is the real bitter pill for those who want to see Jesus removed from the holiday celebrations in the world… the next time you say “Happy Holiday” or “Holiday Party”, remember that the word holiday is derived from the Old English word: “haligdaeg” which means, Holy Day…

His presence and lessons carry on… Merry Christmas!

 

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Emotional Turmoil

I have been teaching an Emotional Intelligence class for the last couple of weeks and the discussion of self awareness and self control comes up repeatedly throughout the class.

As we watch the events unfold on the news regarding “Occupy Wall Street”, it concerns me deeply that some of the people that are participating in these protests are sending the wrong message to the world. They seem to have started out with a common purpose, scattered as it might have been. But now it appears to have been highjacked by people that are intent on causing disruption and mayhem. Is it possible that it is the same people who started the protests in the first place. Who is really behind OWS anyway?

The idea that we may at some time be able to change the way we treat one another by focusing on our own levels of compassion and self awareness is still a powerful concept. But to disrupt innocent peoples lives and create disruption is so far away from what is possible and smacks of the same greed and selfishness that got us into this economic mess in the first place.

Emotional Intelligence is something that can be taught and passed on to others. Unfortunately, so is anarchy and intimidation. Do not go down the path of confusion and hatred. There is a better way. But it takes patience and compassion. We are all in this together.

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To Be Challenged

This is a great quote by Sterling Hayden about the choices that we have in our lives. He was a famous actor in the day and he wrote a great novel called, “Voyage”. I read the book when I was thirteen years old while tuna fishing with my dad. Give this quote a look.

“To be truly challenging, a voyage, like a life, must rest on a firm foundation of financial unrest. Otherwise, you are doomed to a routine traverse, the kind known to yachtsmen who play with their boats at sea… “cruising” it is called. Voyaging belongs to seamen, and to the wanderers of the world who cannot, or will not, fit in. If you are contemplating a voyage and you have the means, abandon the venture until your fortunes change. Only then will you know what the sea is all about.

“I’ve always wanted to sail to the south seas, but I can’t afford it.” What these men can’t afford is not to go. They are enmeshed in the cancerous discipline of “security.” And in the worship of security we fling our lives beneath the wheels of routine – and before we know it our lives are gone.

What does a man need – really need? A few pounds of food each day, heat and shelter, six feet to lie down in – and some form of working activity that will yield a sense of accomplishment. That’s all – in the material sense, and we know it. But we are brainwashed by our economic system until we end up in a tomb beneath a pyramid of time payments, mortgages, preposterous gadgetry, playthings that divert our attention for the sheer idiocy of the charade.

The years thunder by, The dreams of youth grow dim where they lie caked in dust on the shelves of patience. Before we know it, the tomb is sealed.

Where, then, lies the answer? In choice. Which shall it be: bankruptcy of purse or bankruptcy of life? ”
— Sterling Hayden (Wanderer)

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What is The Truth?

James Evanow shares some interesting ideas about the truth in our lives and how the littlest things can make a difference to others…

Untitled from James Evanow on Vimeo.

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Pastafarian

Our beliefs usually have a far reaching affect on ourselves and the cultures we live in. I found this article and I was rolling on the floor when I saw the word Pastafarian.It makes you really stop and think about what some people will do to get their point across. Enjoy!  Pastafarians

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Touch of Grey

I was never a big Grateful Dead fan. I mean I liked a lot of their music but I never really understood the big thing with the dreads and the buses and all of that. I stopped at a rest area in Oregon once and there was a group that had stopped to use the facilities or maybe bathe in the sink. Come to think of it they did not look bathed. My first thought was, they looked like they crawled out from under a rock.

Anyway, tonight I was listening to Pandora and I heard the song Touch of Grey and something struck me. I had never really listened to the lyrics. What a closed minded pompous ass I am. I guess when you start getting grey you take notice of such things. I mean after all, there is only this one life, right? Could this be the anthem for the future of our country?

Here is the link to the lyrics: Touch of Grey It comes with the music video. Enjoy!

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Living An Integral Life

I am re-reading the book, “The Power of Truth” by William George Jordan. It is amazing to me that someone that has been dead for over 100 years had such a good focus on morality and integrity in what seems to be relevant to modern times. It would do the leaders of our country good to read this book, simply to get back to the basics of how we should treat one another and, well… lead this country. The book can found at The Soul Connectors Store.

Jordan says at one point, “Truth means ‘that which one troweth or believes.’ It is living simply and squarely by our belief; it is the externalizing of faith in a series of actions. Truth is ever strong, courageous, virile, though kindly, gentle, calm, and restful. There is a vital difference between error and untruthfulness. A man may be in error and yet live bravely by it; he who is untruthful in his life knows the truth but denies it. The one who is loyal to what he believes; the other is a traitor to what he knows.”

Stand by the truth and let it be your compass. We are in times that are demanding us to straighten our course. You will know what to do when it comes time to make your next decision in business, relationships and life in general.

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The Dragon Named Hatred

We are living through some very disturbing times. I was reading this morning about a mob of about 50 young African American men marching in the streets of Peoria, IL. They were reportedly yelling “death to whites” and shouting at people that were in their yard looking to see what was going. Of course this came from the media and the assumption is that what they report is factual and can be trusted as truthful information.

The idea that we have a racial hatred being spewed so brazenly on the street of this country bothers me greatly. Of course there are many racist whites and as far as I am concerned, ignorance breeds contempt, and of course more ignorance. What bothers me even more is that you are not seeing any of this reported on the major networks. In fact, there are reports that angry mobs are on the rise in many large cities. Stores are evidently being broken into, passengers on buses are being accosted, and others are being terrorized in this country.

We should be concerned about this and we should be vocal. However, the reality is that we will see it and, for the most part, just shake our heads in shame and disgust and do nothing about it. Unfortunately there is not much we can do about it, or is there? We can certainly share the latest entertainment images across all of our favorite social media sites, but let’s not create awareness amongst each other of the social degradation that this country is experiencing. Oh no! That would not be proper Facebook etiquette! The truth is, we are choosing to hide our selves and our families from the reality of the times. I don’t write this blog entry with any intentions of causing pain or upset, but only to create awareness.

Two ways to look at it are: 1. We are on a one-way path with no return, so why not just enjoy our lives for now and hope things get better. 2. Create awareness among our friends and family and be aware of the severity of the situation.

We have elected officials that say they care, so maybe we need to hold a candle to their feet? We can see if they flinch when the heat is applied? And if they flinch, spread the word and expose their weakness.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. touched on this topic 4 years prior to his death. He discussed the question of what African-Americans should do with their new, dearly fought for freedoms that were now found in laws such as the Voting Rights Act of 1965. He concluded that all Americans blacks and whites must unite in order to fight poverty and create a new equality of opportunity. What a shame to see the grotesque head of racism whip it’s ugly tail the other direction and begin to cause more pain and agony in this great land.

We all need to follow the path of peace and higher consciousness and be an example to others, but we must remain aware of the hatred whose rancid blue veins have crept below the surface of the soil of this globe for many centuries.

So we have clear choices… we can be the proverbial ostrich and put our heads in the sand, or we can fly high like the hawk and be watchful and knowing. It is a choice.

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PACE Your Self

Do you ever get up in the morning and everything is going pretty good until you step into the shower and the warm water starts to wake you up slowly? And then all of a sudden you start to think about what you are going to do for the day and you remember that you have to pay bills and that you are waiting on some form of income to come but it isn’t there yet? And then you start to think about the economy and the what a great job our politicians are doing and how your three year old could probably manage things better?

Is it only me? Well, I don’t have a three year old, but I do have a great new program that helps people empower themselves. Do you want to get past the anxiety and the stress of your routine and make sense out of things? Maybe take a closer look at why you believe what you believe? P.A.C.E. stands for:

Presence
Awareness
Consciousness
Empowerment

You want to slow down a bit and look at your skill sets. Ask your “self” what is it that you really want to do in your life? Are you having to re-invent yourself? I think I have some some very enlightening ideas for you to ponder over. I will be having an introduction call to the PACE Your Self Empowerment System. And it is free to listen in. Join me on Wednesday, June 15th to hear more… the dial info is below.

Call now for more information at 866-714-9996

Dial In Number: +1 (775) 996-3560 or +1 (800) 741-4032 (U.S. only toll free) 

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